Health and relationships
Remember when you start college or university you may need to get a new GP and Dentist.
If you are a young person and you feel down or depressed, this booklet produced by Young Minds is for you. It talks about how normal it is for people to feel up or down at different times, but highlights the difference between these feelings and more serious longer-term depression which can make daily life difficult.
The ‘In School Stay Cool’ booklet is aimed particularly at those young people starting secondary school. This booklet highlights worries that young people can have, such as school work, exams, making friends, fitting in, feeling under pressure, being bullied, not wanting to go to school and not getting on with a teacher. It then suggests ways young people can cope and manage these difficulties.
Growing up and leaving childhood entering adulthood is both exciting but can be daunting. Aimed at 16-18 year-olds, the Entering Adulthood booklet examines the excitement, fears, uncertainty and difficulties associated with the transition from childhood to adulthood and suggests ways of coping.
Self-harm, or self-injury, describes a wide range of things people deliberately do to themselves that appear to be harmful but usually do not kill them.
The Young Minds booklet ‘Worried about Self Injury’ is a really useful booklet to help young people understand more about what self-injury is and why people do it. It shows young people how to find support.
Self-esteem is how a person feels about themselves and what they do. Someone with positive self-esteem will generally approach things thinking they are a good person who deserves love and support and can succeed in life. Someone with low or negative self-esteem will generally think they are not good at things, don’t deserve love or support and that situations will work out badly for them (text taken from young minds).
For further information about the signs and symptoms of low self esteem please visit the Young Minds website.
Peer pressure is feeling like you have to do something just because all your friends are doing it. It's OK to say no and make your own choices. Did you know many young people face the challenges of peer pressure. Examples of this can be feeling like you have to:
Wear the same clothes as your mates
Drink alcohol, smoke or take drugs
Change your friends because your other mates don't like them
Bunk off school
Have a boyfriend or girlfriend
Start having sex.
Just remember real friends will not try and change you, they will accept you for who you are, they will not ask you to do things you are not comfortable with. If you feel the pressure of your peers please tell someone. Talking can always help.
Here are a few tips to make your home life a little better:
Talk things through. Your family members can't read your mind no matter how well they know you. Tell them if what they do upsets you or if you don't like the way you are treated.
Keep your parents informed. Most parents nag you because they don't know what you're up to and are worried.
Respect each other. You may not agree with your parent's rules and beliefs just as they may not like all yours. Try to remain calm & collected instead of lashing out and they will be more likely to respect what they have to say.
Respect each other's privacy. Let them know you're not hiding anything, you just need a bit of time & space to yourself sometimes.
Don't take it out on them. Family members bear the brunt of it when you are in a bad mood. Try hard not to always take it out on them and remember to do something nice for them regularly to show that you care.
Give yourself a break. If you're feeling stressed or angry, try doing an activity that you enjoy, maybe a sport. Or practice relaxation techniques in a quiet place. Your problems probably won't go away but it'll give you a chance to distance yourself from family members.
If you are a young carer, sometimes you may need some extra support. Contact your local Young Carers Project for details on how they can make life easier for you or visitYoungcarers.net
to talk to other young carers.
If you are lesbian, gay or bisexual, you may find it difficult to discuss your sexuality with your friends and family. FFLAG (Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) is a national voluntary organisation dedicated to supporting parents and their lesbian, gay and bisexual sons and daughters, with help lines across the UK, and useful links to resources. They produce two useful booklets 'How do I tell my parents?' and 'A guide for families and friends of lesbians and gays' which are available online. These are also available in Urdu and Hindi.
Sexually transmitted infections (STI) are mainly passed from one person to another during sexual contact. There are at least 25 different sexually transmitted diseases with a range of different symptoms
If you are living with HIV or know someone how is and you would like help and support. Please contact your local clinic, doctor and they will be able to sign post you onto organisations which will be able to support you
Pozitude has been designed by young people for young people, who are HIV positive.
NHS - Let's Talk About It: Sexual Health
Get It On: Your Guide to Sexual Health Services in Hampshire
The internet is a great communication tool and can help you learn new things, get information, meet new people and have lots of fun.
The internet can also be a dangerous place. Make sure you are safe online, look out for signs of grooming, and bullying.
The law has changed in regard to revenge porn, arm yourself with information so you are not a victim - https://www.gov.uk/government/news/new-law-to-tackle-revenge-porn
Are you in danger? Being abused? Or know someone that is? Don't suffer in silence - call for help!
Dial 999 for the Police
0300 555 1384 for Children’s Service (0300 555 1373 Out of Hours)
on 0800 1111 or online at www.childline.org.uk
Keep your mobile out of sight
Try not to use it when you are out on the street
Use a security code to lock the phone so if it is stolen, no one else will be able to run up huge bills on your account
If you are attacked for your mobile, give it up - it's not worth putting your life in any sort of danger for a phone
Everyone has to deal with the death of someone close in their life at some time. Everyone copes with the loss of someone they love in different ways.
You may also feel that the advice being given to you on how to cope with your loss, is coming from all directions and is confusing. This can leave you feeling that nobody really understands what you are going through.
But there is real support out there for you. Visit:
People drink alcohol for all sorts of reasons. Many people enjoy alcohol and most of the time it is not a problem, but drinking heavily can damage your health, especially if you’re a young person.
People take drugs for all sorts of reasons. Because they think drugs can make them forget their worries, because their friends do, or because they think it might be fun. Talk to Frank website is a great website for young people who want to find out more about drugs and the side effects of taking drugs.
Read, listen and watch interviews from young people about taking drugs on the Youth Health Talk website.
Catch22 Hampshire 24/7 works with young people in Hampshire. Contact them direct if you feel your drug or alcohol usage is out of control.
With all the talk about the dangers of illegal drugs, it’s easy to forget that you can buy one of the most widely used and highly addictive drugs at the corner shop.
Some people say smoking helps you cope with stress. Some say it’s a social thing, a way of relaxing with friends. Some people smoke because they are unhappy. Many say they wish they had never started.
To find out how much smoking costs, support if you are looking to stop smoking and for contacts for local stop smoking services visit the Smokefree website
The Suzy Lamplugh website has really good tips and suggestions for staying safe in arrange of situations, from travelling on public transport to going out for the evening. Why don’t you also do one of the personal safety quizzes to see how much you already know about staying safe.
If you are travelling,Think!
andTales of the road
will give you some neat ideas on how to stay safe.